It can be confusing to know when to get help after a loss.
Signs of prolonged grief include feelings of loneliness, sharp sadness, unease, and irritability of grief can permeate every area of life. It can range from mild to severe and can prevent you from engaging fully with others and yourself. There is no “normal” timeline for grief, and recovery from grief is often wavy as opposed to a straight line. Maybe you feel like you are making progress forward but then backward as the grief washes over you time and time again like waves in the ocean. It is highly personal.
No matter what has happened, there is hope. While there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there are healthy coping tools to help you through the process. The bigger the loss, the more intense the grief can be.
Therapy can help you cope after a loss and get effective solutions that will help you move forward and thrive.
It is possible to explore the painful and confusing emotions that you feel through therapy. You might be somewhere in the five stages of grief, including feelings of denial that the loss has truly happened. Maybe you feel angry or are bargaining with life or maybe you feel depressed and hopeless. This is all part of the process. Therapy can help you pinpoint your process and work through it.
Some common myths around grief which you may have heard and might be stopping you from getting help is that it is important to “be strong” and suppress your emotions. Maybe you wonder if you let yourself talk about your feelings, you might become even more overwhelmed with your grief. Maybe you unconsciously think it will go away faster if you ignore it. It may feel hopeless after a significant loss, but the way that you feel can be helped through processing with an experienced therapist.
Therapists at Thriving Lane offer an open, and empathic environment where you can explore emotions with support. Our approach towards treatment has helped many of our clients to embrace their own vulnerability in difficult times and regain strength.
What should I expect if I get help for my grief?
In your first intake session, we will gather some information about your life and understand more about the loss and grief you may be experiencing. Additionally, we will have you fill out paperwork that will give us some more background information to help assist in tailoring a personalized treatment plan that caters to your specific needs. In session, we will:
- Acknowledge and make space for your pain
- Accept that grief can be unpredictable and triggered easily
- Identify further supports
- Process through your emotional recovery
- Identify signs of prolonged grief and depression—and provide the necessary next steps if needed
We may also introduce holistic techniques to you process your loss and move towards wellness. This may include breathing techniques and other mind body interventions, nutritional psychiatry and mindfulness. Additionally, we offer medication management to help cope with various symptoms of grief if they are prolonged and disruptive including difficulties with sleep and anxiety.
You are not alone in your grief and loss.
When someone dies, on average they leave 5 people behind who they are close to. In the United States, around 2.5 million people die each year. This leaves about 12.5 million people grieve over a new loss in the United States per year. More than 57% of Americans reported experiencing a major loss over the last three years. And, while grief is very common, studies show that reaching out for help and therapy can help improve with quality of life and wellness.
Maybe you have more questions about grief therapy..
I can deal with my pain alone.
Many people do deal with their grief alone and we are sure you can too. But, there is no reason to when there is help and support just a few clicks away. As Brene Brown says, “We don’t have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to.” Also, if the pain of grief and loss are not addressed, they can become prolonged and even more difficult to handle. Being able to get support early and regularly can help move you towards thriving and wellness, despite your loss.
I do not have time for grief counseling.
We hear this all the time! The truth is, prioritizing your own wellness and finding time and creating space for your emotional life, will help you use your time in other parts of your life much better. We also offer teletherapy to make attending therapy less time-consuming. Many of our teletherapy clients fit in one session per week for the amount of time it takes to travel to and from our office.
Is it going to be difficult to talk to someone online?
Therapy can certainly feel strange the first time either in person or online. Fortunately, out highly trained and experienced therapists understand this and will do everything they can to help ease any fears you may have. Many of our clients actually prefer being able to see their therapists from the safety and familiarity of their own home! All of our sessions are through a safe, secure, and compliant platform.
Are you ready to get the support and relief you deserve?
Life can be unpredictable and we certainly have little control over the bad things that might happen to us. You do, however, have the resources you need here at ThrivingLane to help improve you how feel about life’s events and help process the pain you are experiencing. We invite you to contact us and help you get comfort and achieve wellness.